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Chrismas is Yours, Not Mine and They’re Okay

Christmas is not our holiday.  It just isn’t.  It hasn’t been for over 20 years.  It’s just that simple.   Every year when one of my adult children says this to someone who does celebrate the holiday, they are invariably asked, “How has that affected you?” making them feel like they have been deprived of something grandiose or that their parents are mean green ogres.

This year has been interesting to listen to their responses and reactions.  One said they ‘love’ this time of year because they don’t have to be stressed out like everyone they know trying to buy gifts, getting them wrapped and attending parties.  One specific one said she has LOVED wrapping gifts at her job knowing she’s helping to relieve some of the stress of those who do celebrate!?   Another one said, they’ve never really thought about what they missed because there’s nothing to miss.  The discussion drifted into the conversations they have had with those people and not one person ever  mentioned a spiritual connection to the holiday – not one.  And, we live in a town where there’s a church on every corner!

Though I know that everyone at the doctor’s office yesterday meant well when they wished me, “Have a Merry Christmas”, I wonder what they thought when I said, “YOU have a Merry Christmas, our family does not celebrate.”  I know from their silence every one of them was dumbfounded.  Probably in their minds they were thinking,  ‘who would be so humbug to not celebrate this holiday of cheer?’  But then again, “How has not celebrating Christmas historically affected the Jews?”

You see, we have never felt comfortable about lying.  We especially have never felt comfortable lying to our children about a hopping rabbit that lays chocolate eggs, the little lady with fluttering wings who steals from them while they sleep, or the jolly man from the north pole who flies a sleigh through the sky led by eight wingless mammals with antlers.  And, really, he comes down the chimney?  We don’t even have one!

More than feeling uncomfortable, we realized we would begin the cycle of lying.  With the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny and Santa Claus, we were subtly teaching our children that when they grew up and realized that they’ve all been a make-believe sham, they would begin to question us as an authority on truth or lies.   As parents, we wanted to set an example – a lifetime example.

The most important Truth to us was our faith in the God of Israel and the birth, life, death. resurrection, and soon return of our Messiah.  To think that someday our children would doubt Yeshua as the Savior of the world, His Lordship in their lives because we fabricated cutesy games about other beings they couldn’t see, feel, touch, or hear was just not worth the price of their spiritual well-being – now or in eternity.  Lies are lies.  Not bearing a false witness is a commandment.  And, there was going to be someone other than their mommy and daddy being the ‘father of lies.’

Some celebrants may not include Santa and his reindeer in their holiday festivities because they honestly do want to honor the time as Jesus’ birthday.  If you have read my other blog posts about Christmas, you’re  probably already aware that we don’t celebrate Yeshua’s  birthday at this time of year.  At one time we did, but then we learned that’s another lie based on the lie that ‘we don’t know when he was born.’  When we were made aware of the timing of the Messiah’s birth through Scripture, we were honest with our first two children at the time  (4 and 2 at the time – now 26 and 24, 19 and 16) about our own deception.  We repented and removed the lie from our lives and our hearts.   So, Christmas became ‘not our holiday’.  It may be yours, and our children are okay.

Back to the original question from a different perspective, “How has not celebrating Hanukkah, Passover or Feast of Tabernacles affected your children, spiritually?”

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