A How To – Celebrate Passover!


The most important part of celebrating Passover is to have a ‘guide’ that explains not only what to do, but what you are doing.   When we began celebrating the Passover many years ago, we used a Messianic Haggadah (a telling of the account)  put out by a well-known Messianic Jewish ministry.  It was simple and exactly what we wanted and needed.

As the years passed and we learned more about Yeshua in the Passover, we found there was a depth that was missing in the traditional-based Haggadah.  We decided that we should write our own.   We incorporated significant traditions that Yeshua used at his last seder into our Passover Haggadah as well as Scriptures that highlighted the shadows that became reality through Him.

Everyone at the seder or at least every two people will need a Haggadah. If you would like to use ours, click on the book cover on the right.  If not, do a search for a Messianic Haggadah online.  We, as hosts, provide Haggadahs for each of our guests who come to our home.  As we have made ours into an available booklet, we kept the price minimal with no profit to us so that anyone can afford to buy several or, in the case of a church,  purchase them for their guests or pass the cost on.

If you’re thinking of having a seder in your home with family, with friends or even a  even or even a church celebration, remember this is to be a FEAST.   Make sure you have a main dish of beef, chicken or even lamb.  I suggest a main course per each 6-10 people.  You can have a small group prepare all the food or invite each family to bring a dish of something to share like a fruit salad, green salad, vegetable or dessert.   Ask that they do not bring anything that is leavened (with yeast or soured dough) or made with anything found in Leviticus 11 – especially pork products (ham, pork, bacon, sausage) and seafood.  I have linked some recipes that we use for our seder dinners that include a main course, side dishes and unleavened desserts and cookies.

Traditional Food and Recipes

There are some traditional foods that can be served during the seder meal. The highlighted links have the receipes. Carrot tzimmesmatzah ball soup,  kugels: sweetbananamushroom, and  sponge cake or macaroons are all wonderful ways to include others in your meal.   Fresh fruit, fruit salads and green salads are  welcome at a seder.   We always serve lamb, though it is not tradition to do so.  Some people serve Gefilte Fish, Roast Chicken, or Brisket.

Setting the Table

When setting the table, use some white table clothes (plastic, paper, or even white sheets)  to make it look like a special dinner because it is!   It is a ‘feast of the LORD.’ – a memorial not just to the Passover found in the books of Exodus, but a rehearsal dinner for the Wedding Feast of the Lamb to come.

Everyone will need a plate, soup bowl, forks, knives, spoons, napkin and 2 cups.   Paper and plastic products are fine to use, and with a large group make clean-up much easier.   The two cups are for drinking water and the cups of wine or grape juice that will be consumed during the seder.  If you can, use wine glasses.  Plastic ones can be found in most stores.   If you have a smaller group, feel free to use dinnerware and silverware.

Seder Plate

Seder Plate

Seder Plate

The seder plate will be the centerpiece on the table(s) along with the matzahs, unleavened bread.  If you have more than one table, you will need one plate for each table to make it easier for people to share the items.  Special foods you will put on each plate are charoset (apple mixture), bitter herbs (generally horseradish), sprigs of parsley (one for each person),  and a cup of salt water for dipping.

Seder Plate

Lamb Shank Bone

You will also need one lamb shank bone that you can usually get from a butcher. Wash it well and then roast it in the oven an hour or so to ‘seal’ it and you can use it year after year on your plate.  You only need ONE lamb shank bone per seder dinner, not one for each individual plate.  This is because we all share in the same ‘sacrificed lamb’.

NOTE: We do not use an egg on our plate to remember the destruction of the Temple, we use a rock as Yeshua prophesied the destruction of the Temple (Matthew 24:1-3).

Elijah’s Seat

When you are setting your table, set one extra seat/place for Elijah.  With a large group, this setting could be at the leader’s table keeping it separate from the guests.  This is a tradition based on the Scripture that Elijah will come before the Messiah.  Traditionally, a child participates by going to the door to see if Elijah has come.  We put our ‘check for Elijah’ at the beginning of our seder because our children were concerned that if he was at the door, we had already eaten and he would have no food!


There are four cups of wine consumed during the seder.  This means you should have enough wine (or grape juice if you want to avoid alcohol)  for everyone that is coming.  You will need one wine glass/cup for each person to fill four different times. 


Matazh or unleavened bread  is central to a seder dinner.  You can buy it at a local store (Costco sells it in huge cases for large groups) or make it at home.  There is no substitute for matzah so be prepared with a lot as you will also eat it during the next week of Unleavened Bread.

Matzah Tosh Pillow

At each table you will need two plates of matzah and five napkins.   One plate of matzah is for eating during the meal and the other for  the ‘unity’ of matzah called a ‘matzah tosh pillow’.    This pillow can be created with a plate and four napkins. Place an opened napkin on the plate, then place one matzah on top.  Open another napkin and place it on top of the matzah, then another matzah.  Top that matzah with another napkin and a matzah.  Cover the last matzah with the fourth opened napkin.  You should have a ‘unity’ of three matzahs and four napkins when you’re done.  During the seder, the leader (of each table) will reach into the middle of this matzah ‘unity’ and remove the center piece.  He will break it and wrap one of the halves in the fifth napkin – set aside for this purpose.  If you find that you celebrate the Passover year after year, you can also make or buy ‘unity’ pockets called a matzah tosh.

Afikomen Prize

The word Afikomen means ‘dessert’.  It is the piece of matzah that will be wrapped in the fifth napkin.  It will be the last food eaten.  All other desserts will be eaten before finishing the seder so the Afikomen is allowed to ‘linger’ in the mouth as it is part of the bread and wine that Yeshua shares with the disciples at his last seder.

There are special instructions for the Afikomen ‘after the supper’.   This is a game that helps the children participate.   The Afikomen can either be hidden or stolen by the children and redeemed for a price.  In our family, my husband hides the Afikomen while everyone is eating the seder dinner.  Before sitting down to finish the seder, he asks the children to find it.  It is ‘redeemed’ for a prize.  Over the years our ‘prize’ has changed depending on the ages of our children.  We have given stuffed animals, little trinkets, and money.  If we know there will be small children at our seder, we try to have some appropriately aged gift.


Pillows are an essential item during a seder.  Yeshua and his disciples reclined at the table and pillows are a way to emulate this behavior.  Our family actually sets a low table made of a piece of drywall sitting on some plastic tubs and covered in white table cloths.  In this way, we actually do sit on the floor and recline with pillows by the table.  If you have a larger setting, it may not be possible for everyone to bring a pillow, so just make sure that you, as leaders, have one and explain why.

Foot Washing

In a traditional Haggadah, there is a time for hand washing. Since Yeshua washed his disciples feet at the Passover, we have made the hand washing ceremony into a foot washing fellowship time.   Have a basin, pitcher of water and some towels prepared.  Explain to your guests before they come that you will be doing a foot washing as Jesus did so they come prepared to remove their shoes and socks.  If someone comes who cannot remove their shoes, their feet can be massaged.

During the foot washing,  play quiet music while everyone blesses each other by washing feet.  Generally, we have husbands and wives wash each other’s feet while children and parents wash one another.   It is a wonderful time to watch ‘servanthood’ come to light in the lives of children!  At some Passover celebrations, the time of foot washing is a time to promise to pray for one year (until the next Passover)  for the person washing your feet.   If you are in a church setting and want to incorporate the prayer, men may wash men’s feet and women wash women’s and children divide between boys and girls with the men and women.


Feel free to incorporate music during your seder.   You can choose to sing, dance, play instruments or just listen to songs – recorded or live –  that touch your heart about the sacrifice of the Lamb of God, your part in the Commonwealth of Israel, or just praise and worship for the God of Israel and what He has done for us through His Son.  We generally begin our seders by dancing the hora, the Israeli national dance,  to bring people into the joy of the celebration.

There are songs that are traditional to the seder dinner.  You will be singing “Dayenu” meaning “It Would Have Been Enough.”  The words are simple and the tune very catching.  You’ll find yourself singing “Dayenu” throughout the week of Unleavened Bread.  Video with music. 

At the very end of your seder, it is traditional to sing or say “Lashana Haba bi Yerushalayim” which means Next Year in Jerusalem!  May it be so … and may we  celebrate next year in Jerusalem with the Messiah, the King of the Kings at His Wedding Feast!  Video with music.

Here is a basic Passover Checklist as you prepare to celebrate your seder.  Feel free to print it out and use it along with all of the other recipes and links on this page.  If you are preparing your own seder or if you’re just wanting to learn more about Yeshua (Jesus) in the Passover, don’t hesitate to ask.

May you be blessed as you celebrate the memorial of the Passover as Yeshua did with his disciples.  May you see not only your deliverance from slavery in Egypt as part of the commonwealth of Israel, but your redemption from death to life  through the blood of the Lamb.  May the seder you celebrate prepare you for the week of Unleavened Bread and the Feast of Firstfruits and Yeshua’s resurrection from the dead! HalleluYAH!

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